I’m in Fort Lauderdale at the moment for the She Streams conference. I’m not just attending, I’m also doing my very first solo session – nobody else on the dais with me to look to for answers. Eek!
On my flight down today a couple of notable things happened. The first was that the plane hit a pothole. I know we didn’t actually hit a pothole – we were in the air at the time – but that’s exactly what it felt like. Like when you’re driving fast and the crater comes out of nowhere and a couple days later the guy at the tire place is explaining that the pothole actually bent your rim you hit it so hard, and you have to replace the entire wheel, not just the tire (that’s happened to me three times, and it’s about $500 a pop, by the way).
I sat up straight and exclaimed something, I don’t remember what. The entire plane kind-of gasped, actually. A minute later the pilot came on the PA system and said that we had hit the wake of the very big plane in front of us. Lovely. I immediately thought of the plane that crashed into a house in Queens in 2001 – that plane had run into something similar (although obviously much worse) after taking off behind a much bigger plane.
So that was a little scary.
The other notable thing was that I caught Catherine Connors on CNN talking about Alicia Silverstone pre-chewing her son’s food. You’ve heard of helicopter parenting? This is Cuisinart parenting. And for the record, I think it’s disgusting, dangerous, and unnecessary.
But I’m not here to debate what Alicia is doing. The anchor talking to Catherine on CNN (I don’t remember who it was, sorry) brought up the issue of judging another mother for her parenting choices, and Catherine handled the question with class and restraint, saying something to the effect of (and I’m paraphrasing wildly here – the clip was over very fast and I had nothing to take notes on), “I try not to be judgy, but this could be dangerous, could transmit disease, and I think we have a responsibility to point that out.” Or something to that effect. Basically, that when a celeb is a proponent of something that could be dangerous we should speak up.
And then Catherine cringed a little at video footage of Alicia making like a bird and feeding her son mouth-to-mouth.
Of course I’m judging Alicia. And there’s no reason for me to feel bad about that. This is not something I stumbled upon while peering into her window. Nobody taped her without her knowledge. She posted this footage.
When a celeb – or anybody, for that matter – goes public with a parenting choice, they’re doing it for one of two reasons:
1) They want attention. They have something big coming up and need the publicity (I’m looking at you January Jones, eating your placenta as Mad Men returns for another season), or something to sell, like a blog or a book.
2) They really really love the choice they made, and want to share. Why do you share things that you like? To get other people on board.
Either way, they’re going public on purpose, hoping to benefit themselves in some way, and that’s like rolling out a red carpet to be judged. If you want to chew your baby’s food, or breastfeed until your kid hits puberty, go ahead. But the moment you post it online, or issue a press release, or sit down with Kelly Ripa, or write a book about it, everybody else has the right to speak for the other side, and convince people not to do what you’re implying they should do. And we get to do that unapologetically.
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